Two years ago…. it was. My days would go by slowly, without a single thread of a message or a beep on my phone. Days would become weeks, and weeks would become months. I wondered….what was I doing wrong? Not even a single interview, are you kidding me? Zero dollars in my account. To top that off employers creating paradoxes on their job listings by saying they want experience for most minimum wage jobs, but how can I get experience if no one is hiring? But to cut to the chase of how I got a job, my sister worked at retail store and by using her as a reference, I believe I got the job after the interview. But what if you don’t have any references? Well, to increase your chance of a first job you might have to lower your standards a bit and look for smaller jobs, tidy up your resume, and practice interviewing with your friends or family. Why? Because you’ll be surprised at how you really come off to other people. And you’ll be able to correct those mistakes.
Whether it be interviewing for a job, or going out to eat, or trying to figure out how a programming or a math problem works, I think sometimes we can overthink too much. To the point where we make things much more harder or complicated then it actually is. Already thinking of how big a subject is or how hard something is beforehand actually creates a illusion of difficulty that wasn’t even there before. Many smart people overthink too much and sometimes this can stop them from getting something they want that an average person may have because not everything requires deep thought. Sometimes simplicity is the best answer to a problem. Sometimes just going with the flow of how to do something or learn something before thinking what it actually is a whole makes life much easier and solvable. Like in programming you might not know what anything is no matter how much you read about it until you close the book and start trying a few problems. But hey, this is my view on things, I hope you enjoy and have a great day.
How come people can work a nine to five job for others, but can’t work a nine to five job for themselves, to accomplish their dreams? People are told by their managers to do something they might not like all the time. But when it comes to telling themselves to do something, it becomes impossible! “I’m too lazy”, “I don’t feel like it”, “I’ll do it tomorrow”, “I got this game to watch”. People do the same thing over and over again, each and every day, and are clueless and lazy to what is happening. They are being controlled by their feelings and lack discipline to control themselves. Me? I’m still struggling to work for myself. It’s not easy, or maybe it is, I don’t know. But what I do know from people who have accomplished major things in life, is that discipline is one of the keys. It’s one of the most important traits that will get us things done whether we feel like it or not. Here are a few explanations on why I think it is hard for people to get things done.
Limiting Beliefs – Limits that people cast on themselves and others like a curse. They feel like they can’t do something because of reasons that may or may not be true. The scariest part of this is when people aren’t even aware that they have limiting beliefs. How would someone go about breaking their limiting beliefs if they aren’t even aware of them? “I can’t learn algebra”, is a good example because in most cases that is not true. A lot of people who don’t know algebra can’t figure out the most common sense things to do. They will go through loads of nonsense and never figure it out. Some copy homework from others, but when it comes to test time, oh dear lord. Some will make excuses to make self-fulfilling prophecies come true, “see I told you I can’t do it”, and so it is true. “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.” – Henry Ford. When all they had to do at the end of the day is open an algebra book and read it. Or maybe read the math books that came before it.
Lack of Discipline – The lack of. Since we were a little child, we have been disciplined to behave in a certain manner or else we are deemed weird and that something is wrong with us. We have to act a certain way to get and keep a job. While at our job, I think most people are disciplined enough by society to keep their job and not flip out. Also some of us don’t want to lose our only money-making methods and get fired. The question that bothers me is, why can’t we have the same discipline that we have at work? Is it because at work we only have very few things were allowed to do, so we aren’t distracted? I mean a lot of us can’t control ourselves from the distractions and diversions that run our lives at home (television, social media, cellphones). Is this the loop we put ourselves through to get over the lack of fun at work? Maybe if we had less materialistic objects, became a minimalist, and cleared our minds of things to do, we would have enough mental clarity to be able to accomplish our dreams.
Lack of Faith – People that don’t believe in themselves enough to make anything happen. Why waste time if we have already reasoned with ourselves on why we cant do something? Lack of faith and Lack of Discipline are knocking on our skulls here, buy one get one free. You know how some people are cheapskates with money and waste time like its nothing? Well, they wouldn’t be fussing over money and being cheapskates if they knew how to use their time well to make it. Okay maybe they would still remain cheap, but at least they would know how to use their time more wisely.
I will end this deep topic here, I could go into deeper thought but I think this is good for now. Goodluck to everyone that is trying to accomplish their dreams.
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Interviewer: Hi nice to meet you, Age was it?
Shakes the guys/girls hand*
Age: (Did I grip this persons hand too soft?) (Oh no, I just gave an impression that I am a weakling, I’m definitely not going to get the job).
Interviewer: Excuse me? Your name?
Age: Oh yeah, it’s Age.
Interviewer (Okay….?) We are going to the break room to do your interview.
2 minutes later.
Interviewer: Take a seat.
Age sits down next to the interviewer.
Interviewer: Another chair please, across from me, not besides me.
Interviewer: Tell me about yourself.
Interviews, one of the most socially awkward interactions a human being can have. Not just for the interviewees but on both sides of the table. You show up and basically have to explain yourself to a stranger about why they should hire you. Hello??? Because I want the money, duh? No, wrong, interview is over. You feel urged to lie to get the position. “I would love to work here because putting clothes away and interacting with customers has been a passion of mine, since childhood”. “Every chance I would get in school during recess I would read books on retail and how to be the best employee”. “I dream retail, breathe retail, and wake up with my atomic particles charged by retail”. Ok seriously, don’t say those last two lines or they’ll think your crazy. Anyways, you stare back at the interviewer with the most awkwardness smile ever to show an ounce of care in hope for you to get a job. You position yourself to not look hostile. All of a sudden your words become a gamble and the adrenaline pumps in. If you say the wrong thing or stumble across your words like a horse at the end of a pot race, may the gods be with you. Interviews are an inception of very very awkward situations, but it’s needed. We wouldn’t want to be hiring any crazy people guys, would we? Goodluck on your interviews everyone.
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When I cashier, I come across people who I believe are shopping addicts. Some of them purchase mounds and mounds of clothing to no end. Some of them buy miscellaneous junk that literally has no use except for show. Animal statuettes, tiny glass houses, and a whole lot of useless knickknacks. The only use I see for these items is if a person wants their house to look nicer, but then again that’s subjective. So that’s not exactly a win-win cause as some people will think your a hoarder. It seems to me that senior woman tend to buy the most junk. I actually start to feel bad for these people because to me it looks like there getting ripped off. I’m not trying to be a hater, but I tend to wonder why people do this? From what I heard, people tend to buy things they don’t need to feel a sense of happiness during that time. This is not good financially because over time spent money accumulates(adds up). People look back and wonder where did the money go? Ding ding ding, we have a winner, clothes or any other items. I also think younger people buy too much clothes they truly don’t need. Clothes at the end of the day degrade over time and becomes useless. Gaining weight, losing weight, holes and rips from sports and labor, colors fading from wash are a few ways clothes degrade. Why spend thousands and thousands or hundreds of dollars on clothes each year? Why spend your hard-earned time to make money to look good for a short amount of time (1-2 years). I mean if you have a lot of money or are rich and not broke than it’s understandable. Im just saying guys, is it really necessary?
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